Shaman's Den with Nellie

Last night's guest on the Shaman's Den was Nellie Wilson of the Sacred Touch School. She helps people expand their erotic life though in person instruction/workshops and through video learning on her website with Ed Ehrgott. Some of what she does is explore exercises with people that expand their erotic experience and believes that learning happens by experiencing in your body. Nellie spoke about her work with people one to one and about exploring their edges where they felt uncomfortable or tight while being erotic. Nellie talked about how Frank's performances are much the same. Frank creates a play space and invites people in and he follows opportunities and openings as they arise. People can explore and expand and jump into the unknown, or sometimes they hold on and are unwilling to explore, staying safe.

Nellie spoke about how many people are holding on to being in control. She said sometimes people want to be in control when they are having an orgasm and they are concerned about how they will look when they have one. Linda said that holding onto control is not sexy, what is sexy is a person who is available and willing to jump, explore and surrender. People who are available without limits, that is what is sexy! When someone is available without limits people feel it and respond to it. They may not always know what it is but they feel it and they are drawn to it. Frank said that guys are always coming up to him and wondering how does a guy like him get all the girls? Nellie said there is pretty on the inside and there is pretty on the outside. Frank said that he is pretty all the time! He is available without limits. Nellie said that spoke to something in all of us deeply at the core. Frank and Linda talked about the many times when they were in other cities and they needed people to be in performances. People would find people who were sex performers and it was always them who had the most trouble jumping in. They said that they would be fine having sex on the stage with Frank but rocking naked on his lap they would not do. It is not usually the sex and nudity that makes people uncomfortable but the intimacy, the relationship. Frank's focus is on relationships and he is always looking for and following opportunities to be intimate with people and that is what is sexy!

Nellie said that there needed to be a dictionary of new words to talk about erotic experiences. Frank had done it! He came up with the term eroplay to talk about erotic physical play for pleasure without the goal of orgasm, tansex another state of physical play without genital intercourse where there may be orgasm but orgasm is not the goal as in sex. Pantan describes the combination of various kinds of orgasm with an intensely small intimate nonlinear play. Linda said that when Frank had first come up with these terms to talk about erotic play people did not know what he was talking about. Then over time people knew exactly what he was talking about. Nellie said that she could come up with a few terms for the dictionary. Frank said that they could work on it together and she said she was busy with grad school right now. It seems like Frank and Nellie would have a lot to explore deeply together.

Frank is always finding and following ways of being intimate with people like asking Nellie if she would be a plant in his performance at the Pow Pow performance coming up. Nellie would be in the audience and she would feel turned on by Frank and be moved to come up to the stage and explore Frank's body. The performance was going to be Frank looking out to the audience connecting with people and the plants would become turned on and come up to the stage and explore his body. Nellie said she was not sure that she had class on Friday but they could check in via email. She said that she did not feel very sexy on Friday nights and Frank said that he would turn her on. Nellie said, "I'm sure you would!" Frank said that it was fun to play with Nellie and she enjoyed that. Nellie said that there were more and more people out there she has found that are doing similar things that are wanting to have more human connections, to play and explore. Frank said that people are hungry again like they were 30 years ago!